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What is the definition of Trauma, and am I a survivor of it?

One of the biggest problems with being a Trauma therapist is that so many people have it but don't know it. All they know is that they're hurting, they have behavior patterns and ways of thinking that neither they nor those close to them understand, and try as they might, they just can't "get over it." But when they hear the word "PTSD," pictures of Rambo come to mind. They think "well, my childhood was bad, but it wasn't 'traumatic.'" Understand this:

One of the symptoms of being a trauma survivor is "minimization." That means that it's natural that everybody else's experience seems worse to you than your own.

Each experience is unique, and each experience is personal. Don't compare. If there are things in your past that you can't talk about without feeling pain, if there are huge sections of your childhood you can't remember, or if situations cause emotional or physical reactions in you that you don't understand, and especially if your life suffers from pain and dysfunction, then you could be dealing with a history of trauma.

Just because you don't qualify for a diagnosis of PTSD doesn't mean you didn't experience a traumatic event, and it doesn't mean you don't suffer from it.

Do I believe everyone is a survivor of trauma? Absolutely not.

Do I believe a lot more people are survivors than know it? Yes, I do.

The most important thing to remember about PTSD is that it is very treatable!

If you're on this page, I suspect that you may also suspect that's true. Read the lists below and see if you think you fit into any of these categories. If you think it's a fit, then please seek help from a qualified trauma therapist for an evaluation. Your life could improve dramatically as a result.

I. Definition of Trauma*
A traumatic event, either experienced or witnessed, representing a fundamental threat to one's physical safety or survival
The meaning of the event may be as important to you as the actual event itself
Feeling helpless, hopeless
Anger / fear / anxiety / horror
Experiencing intense "Fight / flight / freeze response
Feeling shame / guilt / "badness" / embarrassment
Grief / bereavement symptoms without obvious death or loss
II. Effects of Trauma
Avoidance of memories, images, places and activities that used to feel safe resulting in isolation
Anger issues affecting relationships (spouse, children, friends, coworkers)
Frequent vivid nightmares causing sleep disturbance
Relationship issues (e.g., multiple marriages, social issues, rejection by childen)
Loss of a sense of safety
Inability to trust others
Loss of natural ability to love others
Unresolved grief and loss issues
If you connect with these symptoms or experiences and you know something is wrong in your life, then call me. Call someone. Get help.
*Trauma material adapted from the University of Maryland School of Social Work 'Certificate Program in Trauma Treatment' by Lisa Ferentz, LCSW-C, DAPA, Baltimore Maryland.
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